Your Significant Other Doesn't Just Date You.

They date your family too!

I say Meh!

I've been with my boyfriend for about, it's going on three years. We have a pretty dope relationship and I love how while we're committed to each other, we are completely independent as well.

Just an FYI this post is by no means bashing anything but strictly my opinion on the matter.

Moving on:

I get asked a lot why I don't bring him around places and do everything with him and being that it's the holiday time why we aren't spending it together? Or why he hasn't meet my mom yet.

Little back story on me: I never really had boyfriends. I dated causally and there was a semi serious non title thing for a while. But as far as boyfriends went? I preferred to be single. That was just where I was in life. I enjoyed my own company way too much to have someone else interfere with it. (and when I first got with him, lol let me tell you the adjustment period that there was. Lmao)

So first question: Why I don't bring him places and do everything with him? Simple. I don't need to and somethings I prefer to do by myself. I'm also not one of those people that make other people do stuff they don't want to do. If you're going to be around I genuinely want you there. I don't want you to be there because you feel obligated because we're fucking or in a relationship.

Example: There was a wedding I attended. This person was a really good friend of mine and I wanted my boyfriend there. When I asked, he said yes because he saw how important this person was to me. There was another wedding I attended. I didn't bother to ask him to come because I didn't want to drag him along with me. I was perfectly content to enjoy my time with friends I haven't seen in forever without him.

Second question: Holiday time why aren't we spending it together? Again simple answer. He has his own family that he should be spending time with. My time with my mom and my sister and my friends are precious. Now don't get me wrong I'm not completely selfish with my time with them. We can all hang out. LOL. But there's certain days and certain things that should belong to the person I'm hanging out with. We live in a society where everything is fast paced and instant social media friendly (I'm guilty of the social media trend as well). LOL but when I'm out with my girls or my boys or my family that's what I want it to be about.

Third question: Why hans't he met my mom? Honestly? LOL my mom don't like anybody lmao. She'll kill you with kindness and make you feel two feet tall without even trying. Lmao trust I'm doing him a favor. But still, he's not dating my mom he's dating me. Besides why bring around a person who hasn't put in the time yet in the relationship? I don't believe in introducing the "partner" to the parents (and my little sis in my case) till I know for sure we hitting the long haul. I'm not gonna bring someone temporary around something that's a permanent.

So the whole point? My boyfriend will never be my whole world. That's not who I am. They are however, a huge part of my world and that's how I think it should be. I am a whole person coming into a relationship with another whole person. We're going to make each other better but it's not going to be on some where I begin he ends type stuff.

It's bam this is Nicole, and this is **insert boyfriends Name** and they're a couple. lol.

Anyway that's my PSA. BUHBYE